Hi guys, it’s me again!

Did you miss me? I missed y’all by the way and I’m sorry you couldn’t comment on my previous post. God knows, I have zero idea why the comment section went missing.

Today, I’ll be telling you the story behind 10 pictures on my instagram page.

Exciting, isn’t it?

Personally, I don’t know my creativity level. Like, I’m not sure about how creative I am exactly. I love to think I am though -lol.

Also, I’m not sure if you noticed or not, but I love playing with my instagram feed.

I feel like instagram brings out my creative side. I don’t just post photos…I visualise first!

Sometimes, I know people can be like ‘what the hell did she post this time again?’.

Or ‘that post doesn’t belong on her Instagram page.‘

But believe me.. it does.

Also, I’ve heard people discuss about my use of filter on my instagram photos.

Alright, I’m going to address this very fast!

So when people say shady stuffs like ‘she filter her photos because she’s not confident like everyone else’,

It’s okay.. I’m not like everyone else.

To be honest, I feel like my weirdness is what makes me ‘me’ the most.

So if you expect Tayo to do things because people do these things, don’t be too disappointed when she doesn’t.

Basically, every photo has a story to tell. When I post on Instagram, I always have a thing or two in my head of course.

In this post, I’ll be letting you know what went through my mind when I posted the following 10 pictures on my instagram profile.

1. Because I can heal

When I posted this, it was after we lost my little brother.

That was the darkest period in all my twenty-one years of existence.

I have no idea why I chose that particular picture, or if anyone saw the hidden message in that post.

For me.. I was hoping to heal.

Not for myself alone, but for my family as a whole especially my mama. I wanted to appear strong, go on with my daily business -using social media, taking pictures and smiling again, resuming school without breaking down.

At least, in the eye of the public.

But the bitter truth? You can never fully heal when you lose a loved one. I feel like a part of me died when I lost my brother. I don’t even talk about it that much because it just really hurts.

To every one who has lost a loved one, I can’t promise you that you will be totally fine.

Sometimes, you’ll remember and tears will roll down your cheeks again. Sometimes, you’ll break down in the shower or even while you pray. Comfort? No one can comfort you no matter the words, except only God.

Above all, find it withinn you to stand and remain strong. It is hard.. very hard but one day, you will smile again and it will reach your eyes.

2. 🍫

I was in school when I took the pictures on this particular post.

I remember doing my makeup myself and asking my friend Zainab to take my pictures in the hot sun.

I laughed a lot that day.

I can say, the pictures from that afternoon are not only memorable but also genuine.

I bonded with a friend and when I smiled, it was reaching my eyes- it wasn’t fake at all.

That makes the post special!

Thank you Zainab, because of you I had so much fun and laughed a lot.

3. I like old cars, old watches, anything with a vintage, antique kind of a feel to it

Honestly, I feel like Tayo is a vintage soul.

I’m young, but really old at heart.

Summer 2019, I was in Abuja for my internship. That evening, I saw an old car after shooting a short film for a friend.

I was drawn to the car.

It was there, and I just kept staring at it. Eventually, I had the director of the film take my picture.

That moment, I knew the photo belonged on my instagram. After all, it had it’s own story.

4. Some people think I’m ugly but I think I’m just fine 

So when my internship was almost coming to an end, I decided to change my look.

I was sporting this long dreads at first, then I later cut it short to change my look a little. Eventually, I got tired of the dreads and did a fro.

My brother wasn’t a huge fan of my new look.. actually he wasn’t the only one.

At that point, I was starting to feel some kinda way to be honest. Then, Monday came and I went to work.

I was swimming in compliments..

They absolutely loved my afro! People in the estate also complimented my hair several times and boy…was I feeling myself.

The day a man drove past me, only to reverse the car just to compliment my hair, that was the day I let my big bro know his taste absolutely sucks!

No hard feelings bro.

That story, pretty much inspired the picture and the caption.

5. From the archives

I used to really work out in the past but as my class went up, school work got a lot more stressful and my bed became my best friend.

Working out became my enemy.

So when I look at this picture, it reminds me of the body I had before I got lazy and stopped working out.

Presently, my body isn’t the way I want it to be, but I’ll get there one day!

6. My excuse is that I’m young

Growing old really scares me.

As crazy as it sounds, I’m scared of growth.

This photo was taken on Christmas. I did my makeup which so far is one of my best looks by the way. People said I looked like a doll -lol. I was told I looked like an eighteen year old.

When I took the picture, I was 20.

I like to tell myself I’m still very young, but honestly, I’m no longer 16 and that sucks (lmao).

So this photo is there to remind me that I’m still young and free.

7.

As a poet, I love good poems.

I had to post this particular one on my instagram because when I read it, two things came to my mind and that’s beauty and hope.

Beauty, because this poem to me, is quite a beautiful piece.

Hope, because love isn’t what it used to be anymore. Especially, among this generation, we hardly feel love anymore -lol. I mean, I hope someone looks at me and believe in magic duh!

8. I need to smile more

Fun fact about me: I don’t like smiling in pictures.

Why?

I look like a chipmunk when I smile.

I have big cheeks -since birth. Some of my pictures get ruined because I smiled in them. So I just don’t smile at all except in a few where I don’t look like a chipmunk, of course.

Still, when I look at my pictures similar to this one, it makes me feel the need to smile more in my photos.

P.s. I did my make up in this picture too and it’s one of my favourite looks.

9. Day off

When I took this picture, I went to a library outside school with my friends.

I had no makeup on, just in a pair of mom jeans, a shirt and sandals.

It radiates that comfort zone feels.

Don’t get me wrong, I love getting all glammed up and dressed once in a while. It’s just that, being simple is even more ‘me.’

I captioned the photo ‘day off’ because, even though I was out to work on my project, I still felt like I was out to play.

Probably because I was with friends.

So in this picture I was in my comfort zone.

10. Not in the mood

I can’t possibly write the story behind all the 66 pictures on my instagram profile.

Like this picture, some of those photos represent my mood in a way.

This black and white picture, captioned with ‘not in the mood’ is exactly what it is..

I’m not in the mood!

Lately, I’m fragile, sensitive and all of those. I have a lot going in my head and the stress of being in my final year isn’t helping.

I needed to distract myself and the number one way for me to do that is to write.

If I could, I would disappear for a few days and fling my phone wherever.

But I can’t.. for so many reasons.

Stress isn’t good for the body or the soul, no matter how little.

Eventually, I’m gonna be fine. I’m in a shitty space right now and sort of need a head space. That’s why I’ve been sort of distant to my friends to be honest.

When I’m alright, I’m gonna trouble y’all!

Sometimes being strong is wack.

When you are feeling shitty but you don’t cry or break down, and you very much feel terrible and it makes you feel so uncomfortable.

Times like this, it sucks to be me.

Today, my blog served it’s purpose to the fullest.

I was able to share a part of me with all of you, and I just want to say thank you to all my readers.

God bless y’all!

Don’t forget to subscribe and talk with Tayo in the comment block below.

When I was little, I wanted to become a model. Funny enough, I had no idea that modeling was a career.

Don’t judge me, I was just a kid.

One time, I told my parents ‘I’m going to be Miss World some day.’

Dear friends, now you know I’ve always been a dreamer since I was little.

Now that I’m grown, I realised that being a model is way complicated than I thought.

It looks all glamourous and shiny on the surface, but that’s not all about it.

My ex told me several times, of course, I didn’t want to believe it’s true.

I always acted like I knew about his job than he did. Well, now I know that I absolutely know nothing.

Personally, I feel photography and modeling have this relationship.

Or maybe, I still know nothing.

Anyways, just in case you have a dream of becoming a model, you need to know that the journey is not all sunshine and flowers.

Especially, in this country, oh Lorddd!

Alright, I’m about to digress for a minute or two (sorry!)

So one day, I was telling my roomies about how Nigeria has killed lot of talents.

It’s true though..

Also I’ve always wondered, ‘why is there nothing like part-time jobs for Nigerian students?’

Please, if you know the answer, let me know in the comment section.

What happened to our reality shows? And guys, I’m not talking about BBN.

What happened to Nigerian Idol?

Guilder Ultimate Search, OMG!!

Okay, I’ll stop now and let y’all remember the rest.

Do you remember, when the president declared the youths as lazy Nigerian youths?

You know what the president and everyone has forgotten?

Nigerian youths, like every other youths in the world, also need opportunities.

We are expected to face our books, read, pass exams, graduate from universities. But seriously, not everyone is gonna succeed in this life from all of that alone.

We, the youths, also need opportunities.

I know everyone out there is trying so hard, pushing themselves and trying to better themselves. No one has the right to judge anyone…NO ONE!

P.s. don’t give up. You got this. God got your back. Keep fighting!!!

Back to modeling and photography..

You know the first thing you gotta have to be a model, the body.

I feel like we overdo these things, because our models are extremely skinny.

You wanna be a model? Be ready to starve and be really unhealthy.

You have to put in mind, that you won’t always, eat what you want.

You can say goodbye to that chocolate and ice cream you like so bad.

Photographers are not helping models.

Most times, these photographers do not pay models. In fact, in most cases, it’s actually the opposite.

The models pay the photographers.

You don’t wanna pay? You can say farewell to your bomb photos.

Most of these photographers think they are doing these models a favor, by making them play muse and stuffs.

Honestly, models gotta eat. Give him or her some money, she can’t eat the photos!

This thing is strategy guys..

Rub my back, and I’ll rub your back.

Photographers love to try new concepts from time to time, to do this, they need models.

Models on the other hand, they have to take a lot of pictures, to give themselves some exposure.

I don’t blame the Photographers, after all, they gotta eat too.

Another thing I realised from personal experience- models do not get changed in nice places all the time.

Sometimes, when there’s a gig, models might have to get changed, inside a car or worse, inside a toilet.

If unlucky, then public toilet it is..

And how much do they get paid, to go through so much stress?

Very little!

Unless:

• You’ve been in the game for long
• You have connections
• You are the agency’s favourite
• You are Bella Hadid, Gigi Hadid, or Kendall Jenner.

When a model signs with an agency, it doesn’t mean the model has officially made it.

You start with small jobs, either get some little cash or nothing at all.

Should we talk about the pain, that comes with each weird pose a model has to make, in order to get that perfect shot?

I can’t bend my back for too long, else I’m gonna die.

The overall sad story, some people model for free.

Yes, even after signing with these agencies.

The hustle of photographers isn’t that different.

Photographers come up with all these nice concepts, and at the end of the day, some of them still get really low pay.

Don’t forget, majority of these photographers are freelancers.

They are self-employed.

So, when no client shows up, there’s no money at all for the photographer.

There is no guaranteed income in photography.

If you are a freelance photographer without an assistant, you gotta do everything by yourself.

The hustle is real guys.

Sometimes, photographers get really unlucky..

They get hired to cover events in far places, getting there, and covering the job, they might not even be fed or given transport fee.

Dear Photographers, make sure to get paid, before going down to cover events.

Photography isn’t a dead career. You just have to put in a lot of work.

To some, modeling is all glitzy and glamorous.

To others, it is the opposite- no fame, no cash.

Also, a photographer’s career may be dead. Yup, dead!

While some photographers however, have made it in the industry.

That’s life people.

Some fail, some Succeed.

I wanna know…what’s your take on this?

You have something to say about everything or anything?

Don’t keep your opinions to yourselves, talk with Tayo in the comments below!

(Okay I don’t know why the comment section is missing…but you can please drop your thoughts on my previous post. God bless You!) And please, don’t forget to subscribe below!

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P.s. Please. kindly. Take. Your. Serious. Shoes. Off.

‘I have an ideal type; I’m also a love-at-first-sight kinda girl.’

LIES!!

In Tomi Ogunleye’s exact words, “You don’t have an ideal type Tayo.”

Yeahhh. I mean, I sort of think so too.

For the purpose of this post, if you are a candidate hoping to become my ideal man, don’t worry-

I got You!

When I visualize my ideal type of guy, he is romantic, kind, humble-

Okaaaay, I’m pulling the brakes because that doesn’t even sound like me at all.

If you know me so well, you know that’s definitely not Tayo.

I like to do my thing in style, and the same goes with the idea of having an ideal man.

I do not do basic.

There are rules. 10 major rules that every candidate must follow.

• RULE NO. 1

Yes, I’m a poet. I write poems, I write books, sure. My type of guy is ROMANTIC, but I DO NOT DO CLICHE.

Throw me some weird ass pick-up line, or bring me stuff like APPLES, and you are automatically blacklisted.

What am I, Eve?

• RULE NO. 2

To be considered as my type of guy, DO NOT say stuffs like, I’M AFRAID OF COMMITMENT, or LET’S GO WITH THE FLOW. That way, you start sounding like a disappointment.

On that note, my ideal type of guy is good with WORDS and he chooses his WORDS carefully, like a wise man should.

• RULE NO. 3

Very simple, HAVE YOUR OWN COINS.

• RULE NO. 4

At least, have a good CHARACTER, be HARDWORKING, believe in GOD, being HOT is a plus. The rest, we figure as we move.

And yeah, I’m a sucker for tall guys.

• RULE NO. 5

If we are in a relationship, hold on, it doesn’t mean I’m in LOVE with you. That being said, please THREAD carefully.

And yeah, having a great sense of fashion is a plus!

• RULE NO. 6

The top of it all, my ideal man is oh, so PATIENT!

I’m so impatient, you don’t expect me to be with someone like me, do you?

• RULE NO. 7

Be CARING! On the surface, I may appear like a She-wolf, but sometimes I love to be BABIED too.

And please, be attentive. I won’t always tell you everything.

• RULE NO. 8

If you actually, possess all characteristics from RULE 1 to RULE 7, great! But if you STRESS me..

Boy, BYE.

• RULE NO. 9

If we are in a relationship, it must be because I consider you as someone with SENSE. If you stop having sense, I’m OFF.

I expect a man with sense, to not complain too much.

• RULE NO. 10

Don’t kill me with CALLS. Don’t expect me to TEXT you 24/7. Don’t make me feel like I’m being MONITORED.

Are you a surveillance camera?

For the purpose of clarifying some things, I will be adding RULE NO. 11

My ideal type of guy is CHRISTIAN GREY.

If you are not him, you just violated all the RULES!!!

And hey, do you have an ideal man?

Talk with Tayo in the comment section below!!!

(P.s. I read all your comments.)

Are you a lover of bold colors? Do you think styling your outfits in monochromatic color is boring? Then this post is for you.

Being a Law student is a blessing and a curse. The part where you have to put on white and black to lectures everyday, definitely feels like a curse.

Feels like being a high school student in uniform again, doesn’t it?

Feel free to decide which part of being a law student is a blessing to you.

Honestly, I have to admit I hated black and white at first. But then, putting it on for five years?

Trust me, it grows on you eventually.

Personally, I think being a Law student made me love monochromatic colors. You know, styling an outfit in a single color.

It all started with wearing all black outfits to lectures, and to be honest, I was just too lazy to wash my white clothes.

Trust me, keeping white clothes white can be too difficult.

So, fast forward to the present, monochrome fashion is definitely my thing now.

I love black.

At least, 70% of my wardrobe is black, and it saves me the trouble of color coordination, when I’m choosing my outfits.

Ladies need basic black and white outfits in their wardrobe- these are wardrobe essentials.

On the gram, I see people like Pia Wurtzbach (Miss Universe 2015), rock the all white style, and I totally love it.

I think monochrome fashion is Pia Wurtzbach’s thing too!

Even Kendall Jenner isn’t far behind in the monochrome outfit game!

I never tried the all white style before, not until now.

Well, I think I’m in love with the all white style too!

Meanwhile, this post is about the All White Style vs The All Black Style. Don’t forget!

So last night, I was up till like 1am, checking profiles, and it was really difficult to find an all black or an all white outfit among the people I follow on Instagram, and vice versa.

Eventually, I was able to find a few, and who knows, your picture might just be a scroll away.

Are you not in love with the overall styling of this all black outfit? I loved the outfit immediately I set my eyes on it, and I knew it belonged on this blog post. You killed it babe, good job!

Okaaaay, she’s letting y’all know, you can kill the monochrome fashion thingy with a one piece dress. Look at her rocking that shirt dress, I mean I’m all heart eyes right now!

No comments, I’m here for this look!!

Are you feeling these looks, because we ain’t done yet..

What can I say, I’m all for shirt dresses now, especially the ones in white, with the off shoulder style.

I love how creative she went while creating this look. So, if you are having trouble creating an all black outfit look, she just gave you a smart way to go about it.

So, yesterday my blog clocked one month.

Yes, happy one month to Talk with Tayo!

I’m using this opportunity to thank everyone, for the love and support so far, thank you very much.

To the beautiful ladies featured on this blog post, thank you for agreeing to using your photos for my post. I appreciate each and every one of you.

To my dear Sophie pink, who took my pictures for this blog post, I say thank you. You are amazing!

So what’s your take on monochrome fashion?

Are you team All White or team All Black?

Let’s talk with Tayo in the comment section, shall we?

And yeah, watch out for my next post!

I don’t know about you, but personally, Instagram and Twitter come to my mind immediately I hear the word “social media.”

Now, before we proceed, can we all pull off our serious shoes, please? We are here to laugh, have fun and not be all serious! Thank you.

1. We are all celebrities on social media.
2. We all definitely want to look fly and peng on social media.
3. Nobody is suffering on social media, since a whole lot of people post up photos wearing Balenciaga, Gucci, Louis Vuitton and the rest.
4. Everybody has an enemy on social media.
5. Everybody looks up to someone or a group of people on social media.
6. Everybody is happy on social media.
7. Everybody is “PERFECT” on social media.

Alright I’m going to pull the brakes on the list now.

It’s all lies baby, nobody is perfect and definitely, not everyone on the social media is happy!!

Personally, I used to be “Oh, I’m so obsessed with Instagram. Why? I love aesthetic. I love arranging my feed and all that”. But eventually, I grew the f*ck up.

Social media is extremely addictive especially within this generation (set awon gen Z). We have this high addiction to gadgets and Lorrrddd, it is just too much. I’m guilty too! I can’t do a day without my phone and that’s it.

Yesterday, I was talking to a friend about how I shifted from Instagram to Twitter, telling her the app sucks all my subscription. You wanna know what she said? Chill, I’ll tell you.

“Insta makes me sad inside.”

Yup!

My sweet friend told me Instragram stresses her out and I couldn’t help but agree with her. I mean honestly, the app stresses me out too.

Couple goals everywhere, travel goals, f*cking feed goals, I mean..

Should we talk about the hot Instagram boys too? Nah, that’s a talk for another day entirely.

Social media is both bitter and sweet.

One minute, you feel good about the peng picture you just posted. And if you are like me, you are on the shaderoom and E news sipping some nice hot tea about these celebrities.

The bitter part of social media is the toxicity.

We can all agree that social media is toxic af!

Posting a whole harmless tweet can lead to tears in 0.00000seconds.

Personally, I think social media is exhausting. However, there is a but..

It is likely I’ll die of boredom without social media.

As much as I try to joke around with these things, it is actually not a joke that social media is toxic.

I left Facebook because I felt like there was just too much eyes on me.

Yes, I do not have Facebook.

Or maybe, my account is still somewhere on it but I wouldn’t know that since I no longer have the app on my phone.

And I have to add this:

My roommate is obsessed with Tomike.

Social media keeps influencing lives. Now, I would love to say in most cases, positively, but we all know that’s not true.

“This babe just uploaded a photo wearing fashionnova, I must wear it too.”

“I can’t believe he bought a whole Bentley, I have to step up my game.”

Comparison is the thief of joy.

If you compare yourself to A today, compare yourself to B tomorrow, you’ll just keep running and running till you f*cking kill yourself.

And all we can tell your soul is RIP.

Or maybe gone too soon?

A simple prayer: It shall not be our portion.

I created a blog to express myself more and put my thoughts out there.

Now before I go, I just want to talk about this guy I love talking to on the gram. It breaks my heart 100% that I always have zero idea of what to say to him, whereas I badly wanna talk to him, alright.

After hours of thinking of what to say, I just end up asking jamb questions like:

“How is work?”

Okay, that’s a gist for another day.

Point is, I noticed two things about this guy. Fine, maybe three.

1. He respects women.
2. He’s not much of a talker.
3. He is a very careful person.

Yes, I noticed that this person is a very careful person. He hardly post up stuffs on the gram and when he does, poof he’s gone again.

Well, what can I say?

We can never be too careful on social media.

We don’t know whose intention is good and whose is bad.

Dear Crush, my intentions are good though.

Above all, in all we do, let’s be careful and let us waka jeje.

My loves, I think that will be all for today on Talk with Tayo.

And thank you all for the warm welcome! Read your comments and really, you guys are amazing.

Don’t sleep, I’ll be right back.

And I don’t mean don’t sleep as in literally (lmao).

Drop your comments below and I’ll make sure to read ’em all.

What are you waiting for, talk with me!

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Hi, welcome to my blog.

My name is Adetayo Olaoye, you can call me Tayo. I’m 21, a Nigerian, and a final year law student. So the thing is, I’ve always, always, wanted to have my own blog. Why? I needed a platform, my own platform, where I can talk about anything and everything. I get stressed a lot and one of the things that relieve that stress is actually writing. Yes, I love writing. I have a completed book on wattpad, titled “A Stranger’s Touch” (feel free to check it out). You can say I love expressing myself even though, people mostly tell me I don’t know how to (Yes, I get that a lot). My hobbies are singing, writing (both songs and books), eating (lol), and reading novels.

So I can’t say my blog is going to be about a particular thing, because I plan to just, you know, write as much as I can about whatever comes to my mind. Like my motto says, I just go with the flow.

I can’t wait to start posting what I love and definitely can’t wait to start reading your comments. I think I love y’all already!

Keep your talking switch on guys, we have a loooot to talk about..